What’s up everyone? This is Charlie from Charisma
on Command and today I’m going to be doing a video breakdown on group dynamics and the
person of focus on here is going to be primarily Will Smith. Now, I will say, I’m gonna have
to play this clip a number of times, because in group dynamics so much is occurring at
the same time and it occurs very, very quickly so it can be hard to perceive what’s happening.
But honestly, this still that I’m going to start with is a great example because the
first thing to notice is that throughout this entire breakdown, you’ll see that Will Smith
is the most enthusiastic supporter and the biggest laugher at just about any joke that
anyone makes. He’s not faking it. He’s genuinely just really finds everything they say humorous.
So what this does in a group context is it makes him a force, it makes him someone that
you notice even when he is not speaking. So I’m just gonna show you that pretty quickly
to start. So there you go. There’s a quick example.
You’ll see more of it. Coming up next, Jaden and Will and maybe even Heather Graham, are
all gonna try to sort of speak at the same time. And this is common. Somebody starts
telling a story, people like “Oh, my god, that reminds me of…” or “Yeah, yeah, yeah.”
The difference in how they do it is that Will Smith finishes his sentence, even though he
is not ultimately being the one who continues to tell a story or share his point of view.
Jaden, like raise his hands in the air, tries to say what he’s gonna say, but does it quietly
enough and with not enough conviction, that he pauses halfway through his sentence and
just sits there defeated. So watch this. I wanna play that again, alright? If you watched
Will that time, watch Jaden. If you watched Jaden, watch Will this time. Will is going
to finish his sentence and then allow Bradley to continue to speak. Jaden says a phrase
and then gets cut off, holds his hands in the air and then just like flops them down. There you go, right? So that is one big thing.
Will says, Will says “That will get you really humble really quickly” and it’s clear that
Bradley still has more to say so he allows him to continue. Jaden tries to get in there
and instead of finishing his sentence and then sort of saying, “Oh, no. Go ahead” he
just gets caught halfway through between what he’s saying. And so right now, he feels interrupted.
He feels like he’s not supposed to be speaking. He feels silly like people have caught him.
So watch the difference in how they active listen in going forward. Jaden stays really quiet because he’s been
burned once trying to speak and Will on the other hand, is actively listening. He’s saying
“Yeah” encouraging, which opens up, opens the door for him to jump in at the end and
make a big joke. So, you hear Will Smith “Yeah, yes.” And now
he’s going to speak loudly coz he has something to say and he sees that there’s sort of a
scene in the conversation. People are trying to figure out where to go next. I
wanna play that again because there are a
number of people vying to speak at that time and Will Smith has just decided that he is
going to crack his joke. That is all volume. I wanna play it one more
time at the risk of being redundant. Watch Bradley Cooper’s and Heather Graham’s head
like pop up as Will just continues talking in a loud tone of voice. So there you go and again, Will Smith right
here laughing super loud at the end of this. All of this is to say that when you are in
a group conversation. One of the biggest things you can do is laugh loudly, speak loudly because
what happens with a lot of people as they find themselves getting cut off and do not
know how to fit into a conversation. Now, that does not mean that you can dominate over
other people. And what we’re gonna see here is what happens when somebody else is actually
telling something, Will Smith starts to speak and then gets cut off. But he does it in a
way that you’ll see is gonna be much more charismatic. Worth highlighting again, biggest laugher. So everybody starts speaking at once, right?
Will starting to say something but now people ask him and address him a question. This is
why he gets interrupted because three people are looking at him and go “Have you ever worn
a half shirt?” So this isn’t much different than when we
see Jaden get interrupted earlier, so play it back again. A lot of people chiming in there but because
he is the loudest, and when he’s interrupted, it’s not just other people talking, it’s them
addressing a question to him, which is why he does get interrupted there. So I want to
continue now and show another clip of, sort of a free for all, if you will. Everybody
is talking at the same time. How does it come down? So here’s the thing, if you watch all these
clips, Will Smith is a very dominant and domineering force in these conversations, right? You might
think, “Holy cow, I don’t wanna be in a room with him because I can’t even speak.” The
way that he gets away with it, if you will, and he’s actually seen it, people love it,
to interact with him is because: One, when he does interject, he’s doing it from a high
energy playful mood, right? And what he has to say is almost always more fun and funny
to engage with than what other people are saying. So that’s gonna be extremely important.
The other thing is that he is extremely supportive of others when they tell their stories and
when they make their jokes. So, he’s getting a lot of brownie points, if you will, while
Bradley Cooper is talking or while Heather Graham is talking coz he’s so… He laughs
so loud. He’s so supportive. He claps his hands. He says “That’s amazing. That’s awesome”
so that when he does interrupt, it’s not like, “Who is this guy coming out of nowhere trying
to talk the whole time?” He’s been an active supporter of everything that they’ve said. So I’ll play this part one last time, which
is just… Jaden faces Bradley Cooper and he starts asking him a question but Will just
sticks to what he’s saying, says it twice so he gets the attention and then continues
loudly to make his joke. And
then some call back humor there at the end
from the story that Heather told earlier. So that is a lot in a short period of time.
I hope this has been helpful. If you like this stuff let me know on the comments. Subscribe.
I’ll do more of them but that is going to be it for today. I’m Charlie from Charisma on Command and I
will see you later.